Self Improvement

Takeaway

Don't show off and be modest and thankful. 保持谦虚镇定，不要沾沾自喜，不要沾沾自喜，不要沾沾自喜。
如果别人夸你，你要回礼，或者赞美对方，或者夸奖同事，不能揽功。
Be optimistic and keep a positive mindset, never be bitter and resentful.
多换工作才能多阅人，才能提高适应能力以及获取更多机会。
少说多做，少讨论分析，多提供实际价值。
领导面前多认错，少辩解。
拒绝受害者心态，不要抱怨，不要说这个世界不公平；强化生存者心态，自我赋能，不放弃，不气馁，持续适应和进化。
在经济上不要随大流，跟大多数人一样意味着你就是韭菜。
减少主动的观点输出，按需提供意见，不要试图改变别人。
无论发生什么情况，都不要消耗过多情绪而浪费时间，持续努力保持进度。
烦躁的时候，千万不要说话，安静地待会，成年人的烦恼和谁说都不合适。
不要替任何人做任何决定：成了，你不一定有功；败了，你一定有错。
工资 1 万，对家里说 7000，对外人说 4000。
聊天的时候，不要总是比别人强，否则聊天的次数会越来越少。
能用金钱解决的事情就别用人情；能用汗水解决的事情就别用泪水。
性格写在脸上的人，人品都不会太差，而能控制情绪的人，都不是一般人。
该谈规则的时候，千万不要谈感情。

Advice

If you find someone smarter than you, work with them and you'll learn a lot.
Even if you trust your close friends and family, never tell them everything.
Skills and financial education is 10x better than a college degree.
Let people win arguments on purpose to conserve your mental peace.
If you continue waiting for the "right time", you'll waste your entire life and nothing will change.
You'll be 10x happier if you forgive your parents and stop blaming them.
To realize the value of your life, you need to cut 99% of your friends who don't help you grow.
Your employer does not care about you. If you can make money elsewhere, do it.
Train yourself to take nothing personally to save yourself from 99% of mental problems.
Normalize losing petty arguments on purpose and you'll save your mental health.
The most difficult mission on earth is to focus on your dreams; the easiest task is to complain.
Be willing to let go of friendships that don't serve you. If you hangout with losers, you become a loser.
You'll never regret spending 1 hour in the gym. It's the best form of therapy you'll ever experience.
Starting businesses offline and online will teach you more about business than a 4-year college degree.
Stop taking advice from people who aren't where you want to be in life.
The smarter you become, the more you admit you know nothing and embrace learn.
If you want to be successful than 99%, look at what they do, then do the exact opposite.
Most people, the bottom 80%, are lazy, and they're looking for an easy way. They are looking for a shortcut to be successful, and there aren't any. But if you do something repeatedly over and over you develop a habit, so most people are in the habit of looking for easy ways to get the things they want and they are surrounded by people who think the same way. You know as much as 95% of your thinking is determined by the people that you associate with on a regular basis. If you associate with people who don't work hard, don't learn, socialise after work then you become like them. You think like them, you talk like them, you dress like them, you marry them, and so you married to someone who also has no ambition and you raise children and your children have no ambition. Just go to work and complain about your work. But top people associate with other top people, so people say well where do I find positive people who are thinking about success at the time? First you become one and then you will naturally attract it.

20 Unspoken Rules for Men

Men pay for the first date.
Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you.
Never insult the cooking when you are the guest.
Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.
Never make the first offer in a negotiation.
Don't take credit for work you didn't do.
Take the blame, and give credit when due.
If you are not invited, don't ask to go.
Always aim for the best.
Don't beg for a relationship.
Dress well no matter what the occasion.
Always carry cash.
Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.
Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy.
Whether it's dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.
Never pose with alcohol.
Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.
Ask more than your answer.
You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm.
Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Signs You Are Wasting Your Life

You’re settling for less / 自我设限

By stop challenging and improving yourself, you’re settling for less than you deserve. You’re not living up to your full potential.

You’re mortified to leave your comfort zone / 害怕离开舒适区 / 回避陌生环境

脸皮薄，怕丢脸，不敢尝试未知事物，去陌生环境，于是错过更多机会和发展。

You subconsciously undermine yourself / 总是找借口
Procrastination is your best friend / 拖延症
拒绝学习
逃避现实
犹豫不决
没有目标
害怕被拒绝
三分钟热度

Long Term Strategy

任何需要长期坚持的事情都要融入生活中，

太用力就会不自觉地提高你的期待值，

努力拼搏这种劲头并不是被时常觉知的东西，

意志力是短时间内会用完的精神能量，

太用力，太刻意追求一个特定的目标，

就会特别依赖于正反馈和刺激，

一旦反馈不及时或者负反馈，就会陷入抑郁情绪。

Anything that requires long-term persistence should be integrated into life.

Pushing too hard automatically raises your expectations.

The drive to work hard is not something that is often perceived.

Willpower is mental energy that runs out in a short period of time.

Too hard, too deliberately pursuing a particular goal will be particularly dependent on positive feedback and stimulation.

Once the feedback is not timely or positive, you will fall into depression.

True persistence is to return to peace.

Rely on gentle exertion not moment-to-moment stimulation.

So those who stick to the end rely not on passion but on just the right amount of love and investment.

The biggest enemy in the execution stage of doing a thing is entanglement, complaint, and too much small action in your heart.

So I always tell myself not to push too hard at anything.

So that I can maintain a sense of calm and acceptance of difficulties.

Sometimes don't think of a marathon as a 100-meter dash.

It can take a toll on you psychologically and physically.

There is something called the Yerkes-Dodson law.

Task completion efficiency is highest when motivation is moderate.

This is true for difficult, medium and easy tasks.

One thing if you want it too much you will see it as big, so big that it even occupies your whole world, occupies all your thoughts.

But whatever the outcome, I urge you to jump out of it in time.

Long distance running cannot be too hard. You can't run far if you push too hard.

The state of too much effort cannot be constant, and stability is the first point of success.

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